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Too Much of a Good Thing

Too much of a good thingIs there such a thing as too much of a good thing? When it comes to parenting, I believe most of the time the answer is yes. Successful parenting is about finding what works for you and staying consistent. Kids thrive on simplicity and limits. Too much of anything—even a good thing like presents— can be overwhelming. I also believe in being grateful for all the things in my life and teaching my children to be grateful too. If you have relatives that give your children gifts that is an amazing blessing. But what if their gift-giving is too generous? How can you gracefully explain that when it comes to gifts, too much of a good thing can become a bad thing?

My children are blessed with an over-enthusiastic gift-giving grandmother. She loves to shop and she loves to give. She is so excited to see those little faces light up when they open a present. And who can blame her? It is pretty thrilling. But unlike grandparents, parents can see the practical side of over-gifting—as in, “Where is all this going to fit in my house?” “When will they play with that when they already have so many toys?” and, “What is this teaching my children about giving and receiving?”

I know it’s long been the job of grandparents to spoil their grandchildren and I don’t want to deny them that pleasure. Being able to give and receive presents at the holidays is such a blessing, and not all families are in the same situation as us. Because of this, I want my children to be grateful and appreciate what they have, but that can be tough to do when you have too much.

After a couple years of wading through the sea of presents and managing a tired overwhelmed toddler I talked to my mom about limits and expectations for gift giving. These days grandma asks for suggestions on what to get the kids and sticks to those few gift suggestions—though occasionally she goes rogue and drowns the tree in presents (including a giant Melissa and Doug stuffed tiger in the picture above, check out how huge that thing is!). For the most part the kids are now enjoying just the right amount of a good thing.

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