I often profess that I love all the seasons—and I do. But I must admit that my favorite is autumn. I appreciate the cooler weather, the color of changing leaves and fall flowers and cheering on my favorite football teams. But even more than that, the season of autumn is a time of rebirth for me. It is a time of letting go and starting anew. It’s a time for change.
If you think about it, autumn being a season for change makes sense. Autumn is a time for harvesting and gathering. All of nature is going through a final burst of growth, to eventually let go of its flowers and begin the process of going inward for the winter. And I notice the same kind of energy in myself. I am more energetic and more active, I tend to want to be outside more and I find I take better care of myself. I find I am drawn to opportunities to connect with nature and am energized by feeling connected to the bigger world around me.
In looking back, I can say that I think I have always had this affinity towards autumn. I can recall this feeling of rebirth at the start of the school-year and always loved the smell and feel of falling leaves. It seems that I am just wired this way. Which causes me to wonder—are we all wired the same way? Or do we each have affinity towards different seasons based upon our own individual wiring? I tend to think it’s the latter.
As parents we can be more effective if we pay attention to how our children are “wired”—meaning we pay attention to children’s tendencies or “natural” way of doing things. Through observations of our children we recognize what is “natural” about them—like easy-going, stubborn, out-going or shy. Knowing what is natural about our children provides us with clues on the ways to better parent our child. In addition by knowing what is “in” our child’s nature we are better able to teach him/her strategies for living in the world.
In addition to paying attention to our children’s natural dispositions, it may be fun to pay attention to the “season” our children are naturally drawn to. We all—including our children—are a part of nature. As such we have an inner rhythm that connects us with the world around us. Some find our rhythm in the spring, others in the winter. If you are lucky enough to have a child that is “re-energized” by the fall season, then be sure to get out and enjoy all this season has to offer!