When I found out that I was expecting a baby girl, I was over the moon excited. I immediately began planning out her outfits, with coordinating accessories, for the next ten years! In fact, I proudly told everyone that I had a “pink only” rule. My daughter was only going to wear pink, and she would look fabulous.
But a funny thing happened on the way to pink only outfits. When she was about 2 and a half, my daughter developed her own sense of what was fabulous, and it wasn’t always pink, and it wasn’t always matching. And that was okay with me until my mother bought her a pink Easter bonnet last August. For my daughter, this was the greatest accessory ever. In her eyes, it went with everything. I let her wear it around the house but to my horror one morning she decided she wanted to wear it to school. At first I told her no. What was she thinking? And then I started thinking. Maddy loved her hat and she thought she looked beautiful. Who was I to tell her any differently?
Sometimes as parents we are too quick to want to decide who or how we want our children to be. We want so much for our children to fit in or be accepted that we can’t see the beauty of who they really are. Not letting her wear her hat would have sent a message to her that it wasn’t okay to be different or unique. So, I let Maddy wear her hat to school that day, and all around town. As a new mother I had dreamed of creating who I wanted to my daughter to be, but now I am letting her create the person she wants to be.
And the Easter bonnet? It’s been replaced. Her new hat has a unicorn on it.