Category Archives: School

No Halloween! What’s the Big Deal?

It’s nearly Halloween, and after reading a recent article on some truly horrifying Halloween costumes for preschoolers, I wanted to caution parents of young children about their choices this year.

Parents are sometimes surprised to learn that their child care program doesn’t celebrate Halloween. Why won’t they allow costumes and let the kids have some fun, they wonder. Are these child care providers spoil-sports, or are there good reasons for their policy?

While not the biggest issue in early childhood these days, consider this: Halloween can be very frightening to children under 5. While costumes and make-believe are fun for older children and adults, this can be downright scary for younger children who can’t yet separate fantasy from reality.

Though Halloween is widely accepted as a secular activity by most, it does conflict with the religious beliefs of some families. So programs are being respectful of the diversity of the families they serve when they limit celebration of holidays to those that are strictly secular.

If your program is one that chooses to celebrate Halloween, consider discussing with the director or caregiver how he or she will take steps to avoid frightening experiences. One simple precaution is to not allow masks and to keep costumes limited to simple dress-up items.  Better yet, consider a no-Halloween policy!

Parent-Teacher Conferences

One of the hardest things teachers have to do is sit down with a parent and deliver bad news. One of the hardest things parents have to do is hear it.  Whether your child seems to be having trouble learning, is thought to have a serious speech delay, has out-of-control behavior, or needs to be referred to a specialist for testing–the news is hard to take.

After you get home and have time to think, you may begin to question what you’ve been told. Teachers understand that the business of growing up is uneven for most children.  They tend to appreciate each child’s individual pace and know it takes a long time to grow and learn.  Teachers are teachers, not medical doctors, speech therapists or psychologists.  They can not and should not diagnose.  Working with children gives them insights, and they are usually accurate.  But even if a teacher’s insight proves to be wrong, understand that the teacher had an obligation to point out a concern to a parent.

The end result can be positive.  If a teacher suggests something is wrong, check it out.  Seek professional guidance and take the steps to correct a potential problem for your child.  Keep in mind, that no matter what you find out, one thing won’t change.  Your child is still the same child you loved before you heard the news–and always will be.

Posted by karen on Friday, October 30, 2009 10:29 AM